It is evident to say that the ongoing feud between popular Nigerian music duo, P-Square has been on the lips of everyone for a while.
Peter and Paul Okoye’s feud has led to a halt in their music collaboration as both of them now perform as solo artists. However, the P-Square feud offers valuable lessons to every individual.
Hence we've compiled a list of 5 valuable lessons every individual can learn from the ongoing P-Square feud.
1. Communication is key
Firstly, communication is an important factor in any relationship at all. This is evident in the ongoing P-Square feud. The feud clearly shows how important effective communication strengthen a relationship. Lack of communication, especially when misunderstandings and unaddressed issues occur, can lead to major conflicts. It is advisable for every individual to practice open, honest, and respectful communication. This will help prevent matters from escalating and offer solutions early enough. For instance, If Peter had expressed feeling disrespected by Paul’s actions before now, they might have addressed the issue privately, and the feud might have been avoided.
2. Separate personal and professional relationships
Secondly, it is necessary to separate personal and professional relationships to avoid conflicts. The saying “do not mix friendship with business” is correct. It is advisable to set clear boundaries and keep family matters apart from business matters. This will foster a healthy work and family relationship. Unfortunately, the Okoye brothers failed to understand this. For instance, it is obvious the P-Square group is operated as a family business with Jude Okoye their brother as their manager. One would think that at some point, he might feel entitled and feel he deserved more than he was getting from their earnings. Also, Jude’s wife was mentioned in Peter’s second letter. By this, she was dragged into the feud and this shows how mixing business and professional relationships can lead to conflict.
Meanwhile, as 2Baba’s manager, Efe Omorogbe stated that, "You get what you negotiate, not necessarily what you 'deserve'." This explains the true nature of professional relationships. It depicts that agreements and contracts are based on mutual understanding and negotiation, not emotions or entitlement. He further explained that the 40/60 slit ratio in the P-Square case is in favour of the performing artist. Though, it was negotiated with Jude their manager and the founder of Square Records and Northside Entertainment. However, it has been perceived as unfair by some due to Jude’s multi-layered roles and contributions.
3. Respect individuality and autonomy
Additionally, it is safe to say Peter and Paul had different opinions and creative visions which contributed to their feud. They did not recognize or respect their individuality and autonomy within the group. This would have promoted harmony in their professional relationship. Respecting and acknowledging people’s individuality and autonomy will strengthen their bond and enhance growth.
4. Forgiveness and reconciliation are essential
Furthermore, the P-Square ongoing feud and temporary split shows that even the closest relationships can face challenges. Just like best friends fight, lovers fight, siblings fight. However, understanding each other’s point of view, forgiveness and willingness to reconcile are essential for healing and a stronger relationship. The Okoye brothers need to demonstrate genuine efforts towards forgiveness, reconciliation and healing. They keep coming on social media to call each other out, continuing the disagreement with no one actually trying to understand the other person’s pain or point of view.
5. Seek mediation and support
Consequently, seeking mediation and support especially when the conflict becomes one of public interest is crucial. Third-party intervention can help resolve the dispute and provide new perspectives. As of now, we do not know if the Okoye brothers have sought mediation or support in the ongoing feud. Although, former presidential candidate, Peter Obi visited them last week. However, the reason for his visit was not made public. Meanwhile, some celebrities and fans have weighed in on the P-Square feud urging the brothers to please resolve the issue and move on with making music but it is clear that they have not listened as the feud is still ongoing. If they had accepted help, their issues might have been resolved amicably.
Conclusively, the P-Square feud has given a reminder that relationships require effort. Also, understanding, effective communication and forgiveness strengthen any relationship. Individuals need to learn from the P-Square feud and apply these lessons in their own relationships with love and respect.
